Why I Rarely Cook and You Shouldn't Feel Pressured to Either
The history of women in the kitchen has been a history of control and power. If a woman is tied to the stove and the home, it leaves her less time for other types of work and play— like organizing a feminist revolution. I’m sure we have all experienced how time consuming and labor intensive being in the kitchen can be. I almost always burn myself from stir-frying vegetables, overcook my muffins, or cut my finger trying to julienne some carrots. Cooking is a skill that I do not have, so I rarely do it. If you need reasons to stop cooking too, here is my City Girl’s Argument for Not Cooking:
Explore More Food: Eat Out
My mother exposed me to a lot of Chinese food like Mapo Tofu and Singapore Noodles. She tried to mix it up every now and then with some Italian (spaghetti and marinara sauce) and Mexican dishes (build your own taco kits), but mostly, it was all Chinese food. It was all I knew, but once I started eating out, I grew curious about all the different ethnic cuisines to explore. My taste buds craved variety, and I got it from eating at various restaurants rather than from eating multiple leftovers from my lasagna that was too big for one person.
Support Local Business: Eat out
Rent is expensive in most cities, so imagine how high the rent is for a restaurant. The restaurant industry is a low-margin industry, so every time you eat at a restaurant, you’re supporting the local business owner and helping to ensure that your favorite Korean-Chinese restaurant down the block doesn’t close down.
Save TIme: Eat Out
Prep a meal for 15 minutes. Cook for 30. Let cool for 10 minutes. Preparing a meal can take a long time before you can even eat it. The time you save from eating out could be reallocated to spending extra time watching Netflix, an extra Pilates class, or enjoying the bliss of eating.
Treat Yo Self: Eat Out
Ladies, we work hard. To afford my Gossip Girl dream lifestyle, I need to hustle. After a long day of work or classes, sometimes I don’t have the energy to prep myself a healthy and delicious meal — I don’t even have the energy to fully type the word “prepare.” Every Seamless order I place is a little reward to myself for doing what I’m doing.
I respect those who can whip magic in the kitchen to make social media worthy dishes because I certainly can’t. However, I don’t think people should feel guilty if they don’t want to cook. I know it’s a great life skill, saves money, and your mom and future partner may want you to be the next Rachael Ray, but if you don’t think it’s for you, then maybe it isn’t. No matter what, do what right feels for you! Just go ahead and do it (or don’t) ;).
This post was originally written for BrUNch Magazine
EDIT: I do cook more now because I'm interested in testing recipes and seeing what else is out there, but I still very much eat out!